In this day and age when women are being empowered to pursue their goals in the so-called men’s world, there are still those who prefer to lead a simple and quiet married life. Some even just keep quiet and suffer in the hands of the men they love.
When it comes to love, it’s never easy for some women to just leave their spouse even if they are already suffering physically and emotionally. There are various reasons that make them stay in the relationship such as hope that the spouse will change his behavior, feeling of shame if their friends and family know about their situation, financial concerns and lack of confidence of walking away due to the absence of a support network.
Not many women who get married are aware of what abuse really involves in a marital relationship. The reason why sometimes, they find it hard to know when they are being abused.
Knowing the Signs of Abuse
There are many possible signs of abuse that wives should know. They range from the physical to verbal and emotional and some are even illegal.
Physical abuse involves acts that hurts the different parts of the body. These include hitting, beating, pushing, punching, slapping, kicking and biting. A husband who forces his wife to have sex when she does not want to is also considered abuse.
“Using threatening and cruel words is always wrong,” said Samantha Greene, a domestic violence lawyer. “This can occur when you and your husband gets into an argument and when he accuses you of being unfaithful all the time,” she pointed out. Some men who are quick-tempered can also make threats to hurt their wives, their kids or pets and worse, can humiliate you in front of other people.
A controlling attitude is also not healthy for a relationship. You should know the signs if your husband controls how you spend your money, your use of medicines, your birth control or insists that you get pregnant and controls your time with your family and friends. Some husbands even go to the extent of prohibiting their wives from going out with their friends.
Wives should also be able to recognize things that trigger your husband’s anger and abusive behavior. This will help you avoid circumstances that will upset him such as during conversations and arguments.
What to Do When You’re Being Abused
Now that you know the signs of marital abuse, the next step is to know what to do in the event your life is in danger.
Be sure that you have a room in the house where you can go to in case your partner becomes abusive. This should be your safe haven where there is a phone line, a window or door which you can use to escape.
Always have a list of emergency contact numbers including that of your parents, siblings and close friends. Do include as well the numbers of 911, local and national helplines and crisis centers.
You can also create a special code which you can give to your friends, children and siblings. Let them know that when you use this code, it only means you are already in trouble and need immediate help.
Finally, have an escape plan ready. This should involve your car that is easily accessible and should be fully filled. Keep an extra car key as well and make sure to store it somewhere that only you know.